Relinquish

I haven’t posted about race or the Black Lives Matter movement for a while. And it’s pretty common that we white folks will join the dialogue and discourse vigorously when it’s popular, then hit a wall of discomfort and freeze up or abandon the work entirely. Doing the work to lateralize power, resources and privilege … Continue reading Relinquish

Holding on

HONESTLY…I can’t breathe very well today and I can’t tell if there’s more smoke in my house, or my glasses are just really dirty, or if the light is filtered by the haze and making an optical illusion in here. All three. It’s all three. My unrelenting headache lets me know it’s really bad, and … Continue reading Holding on

Smoldering

(Editing to add: The lens I predominantly write from is one that intends to be BIPOC affirming, though I understand intent does not always correlate to supportive impact. I am open to clarification of biases I may reveal in my writing. Blunt responses are welcome here.) Hi all. It’s become shockingly clear that we have … Continue reading Smoldering

For Every

“The quote that is normally attributed to the writer ANAÏS NIN, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are” is also a Talmudic idea about dream analysis: People can only dream about things they have encountered or thought about, and so their dreams consist not of reality — whatever that is — … Continue reading For Every

Staying Connected

Most of us have underlying things going on. Attachment dysregulation, depression, eating disorders, post traumatic stress disorders and the like. Some of us were barely holding on before all of this. Some people are feeling ok. Others have just had the volume turned to 11. We may be swinging back and forth between these. Some … Continue reading Staying Connected

Wild Bouquet

Keep friends in your life who do not douse your passions; people who can look you in the eye and permit you to be you. No matter how you are showing up, whatever relative version of you is moving through your life’s circumstances the very best way possible. People who want you to be false … Continue reading Wild Bouquet

Boundaried

Boundaries. The theme is coming up for me in my relationships, work, and even the tarot cards I pull. I didn’t pick this lesson; it seems to be choosing me. I am grateful for the loving, accountable and patient people in my life. I’ve not always had that, and I fondly remember and honor those … Continue reading Boundaried

But why?

At some point, we stop asking Why? And we start telling, instead. We layer on the scripts that have been handed down to us. We shrug our shoulders and say, “because that is the way it is.” We reinforce the way it is every time we retell it. Then, from these overly simplistic constructs, judgment … Continue reading But why?