Self-determination. When it’s starting to break free from inside of our children, we have to celebrate it. Nurture it. I find that right after my very small child has open-handed/high-five style slapped me splat in the middle of my face, it is not the time to celebrate it. But really, after I have recovered I … Continue reading Umbilical (from 2014)
(From May 2018) Sometimes, the things I study and write about are so heavy, heady, and effective in striking the discord of dissonance that I can’t stand it. Composting existential dysphoria into nourishment is one of my gifts…but there are times this other thing comes out of me. Susan. Her name is Susan. My brain … Continue reading Meet Susan
A lot is going on. I’ll cut right to the chase and share a few things about homeschooling a child with strong will. This is only my experience. May the force be with you as we unexpectedly home school for the next 2-6 weeks. For context, my child is a newly 8 year old. He’s … Continue reading Parenting by Executive Order
My son is six. We are going through some very typical age-related, developmental woes. On top of that, we are going through your garden variety middle-aged family woes. All the songs are right — life is hard and life is beautiful. Today I tripped and fell into something that seemed useful. There are so many good tools … Continue reading HASTY
Photo by David Beale on Unsplash My kids are like any other kids — independent, creative, challenging, and delightful. I am like most parents — happy and weary most days; working to fit it all in. For me, the hardest part of being a parent is when I can’t protect my children from my own mortal deficits. I’ve written before about how … Continue reading T is for Time Out, Tanya.
I keep hearing people talk about “good moms,” and I believe it is time to stop that. Here in my house, there is just a mom. That mom is me, and when I acknowledge publicly that I’m actually an awful mother on any given day, all who know and love me are quick to reassure me … Continue reading Other Mythical Creatures
Teachers, parents, employers, healthcare providers, and gurus: I’m talking to you. Each child, student, employee, or person in your tutelage looks to you for guidance. Why did you go into teaching, management, parenting, or healing? I bet it was not to broadcast bitterness, burnout, negativity, or constrained thinking onto humanity. I imagine you were once full … Continue reading You get to fan ONE flame.
He’s always been a sweaty kid; a hot sleeper with wet hair, wrapped so tightly around me that I know I’m in the exactly right place. Now he’s bigger. It’s summer and we live in the desert. We curl up on the couch to peruse the very complicated rules of the Pokémon Trading Card Game. … Continue reading Sweaty
How long have we been saying, “Keep your head up,” or “Keep your chin up?” But that’s about pride, and dauntlessness, and elevating the self above others. It’s about staying out of reach, where nobody can quite catch you in the sticky web of social distress, where nobody quite knows his or her place, and … Continue reading We’ve Got It All Wrong
Humans are mammals with individuating personalities. In our house, we’ve been talking about what helps a young (or older) person be successful in our society. We’ve decided that all depends on where within society one is spending ones time. Our family includes two 40-somethings, a brand new six year old, a nearly 11 year old, … Continue reading Beast Mode Peace Mode LMNOP, Yo