Practice.
Get a small cup of water.
When you are rattled and torn, it’s time to rest.
It’s hard for the rattled and torn to rest.
If you can’t rest, take a sip of water.
Turn off your friendly doodads.
Right there, from the comfort of your couch, sans doodads…
Put your hands on your low belly–the part we’re taught to hate.
Slowly breathe in so much air that you feel you’re going to pop.
Feel your hands expand outward, with that softest part of you.
Slowly, slowly, slowly, let all the air out; through your nose, or your pursed lips.
Like a slow leak in a cold tire, let it run out of you.
Sip more water.
Put your hands on your middle belly now, over your belly button.
Put them one over the other.
Take in so much air that you feel you’re going to burst.
Feel your hands expand outward.
Let the air leak out again.
Fill yourself with air again.
This time, take your attention to your back.
Feel all the little muscles between each of your ribs, as your back expands outward, too.
More water.
Practice.