Hay thrown in the air, waiting to see what comes down. Pot stirred. Apple cart tipped. Disorganized, chaotic. Again, and again, and again.
It’s been an interesting year.
Sitting very still in the middle of volatile times, watching everybody justify what they need to, and it’s a terrible mess. When it’s not burying us in heavy grief, it’s ludicrous. Preposterous.
And still people can’t stop being know-it-all, antagonistic, instigating bullshitters.
My experience outweighs yours. No matter how little I’ve done to test the validity of it. Because it makes me feel better to be right. More right than you, or all of all of you. And if my experience doesn’t match yours, yours is wrong.
Here’s the thing. There are infinite sociological and anthropological frameworks through which to view the way humans bump against and off of one another. Each of us gets to pick the one that fits our experience. And this is a problem.
We get to say, based on our google searches, without ever leaving the comfort of our home, or neighborhood, or to/from work track, what is true and real and valid. #narrowconstructs
We don’t get to prescribe. We don’t get to disregard. We don’t get to judge. We don’t get to control other people.
But we do get to protect one another, and ourselves.
I’m not going to stand by while any person is threatened, harmed, or it’s even insinuated that it could be coming down the line. And that includes you. If you start to bag on yourself in front of me–your body, your mind, your worth–you’ll get shut down too.
With love and a swift redirection. And laughter. No. We don’t objectify ourselves, and we don’t objectify others.
If I’ve heard you use a racial slur during our life together, and you say you are not racist, you are not paying attention to your own reality, nor your disreality, and if you blame the media, the president (present or prior), the video games, or any other thing you can hit with a dart–you’re shucking accountability, and you are a vessel of perpetuation.
Each person has an incredible ability to adopt a broader world view. It starts by shutting up, honoring the stories of others, and remaining a free thinker. Quit marrying the best fucking youtube rant. When you put all those youtube rants in a bucket, we’re an absolutely ludicrous species. It’s ok.
Stop blaming. Insecurity is a sickness. When you can only focus on the negative, you’ve let your amygdala rule you. That’s imbalance. Cherish the whole truth.
We can all try harder. Listen. Honor. Stop trying to simplify it. Don’t perpetuate it. Call it out. Be love, and be tough. Be unafraid.