We are naturally curious, for the most part. Willing to turn our faces to the sun. To feel the warmth, not only from UV light, but from one another. We want to inquire, to wonder, to learn. There is a little part of us that wants to stare, for as long as we need to, and take in the whole, entire picture. We are built for it.
But – Fear, Stagnation, and Malaise. They get in the way. We turn each other away, impatient or too uncomfortable. We learn staring is not ok, asking is rude, and wondering is a waste of time. We get tired, worn down, overwhelmed, and then we make up little walls and rules. We cover windows. We thrive on dissatisfaction and exclusion and unrest. We build little coven.
Until we are lonely. When sweet curiosity returns. We wonder again, we look, but now usually on Facebook or the internet. We are afraid to call, but we want to, and we should. Boredom and loneliness die in the presence of curiosity. Because curiosity is noble.
When we are curious, it is easier to listen. We seek and digest and therefore learn new things. We grow and shed old nasty skin that no longer serves us, and we soften. Things aren’t that scary, mostly.
An amazing thing about being human is that we have a choice. We can, in fact, be thoughtful and change the ways in which we respond/think/move/talk/act – about ourselves, and one another. And another thing, sometimes, this changes the way others respond to us. Usually after we’ve stuck with it a good little bit.
And after a while, we realize we are good dancers. We find we’ve regained a curious nature, and we notice, humbly, that we can lead and follow interchangeably. And things aren’t as messy. Or if they are, they don’t throw us, because now we hold some of our own sun.