You get to fan ONE flame.

Teachers, parents, employers, healthcare providers, and gurus: I’m talking to you. Each child, student, employee, or person in your tutelage looks to you for guidance. Why did you go into teaching, management, parenting, or healing? I bet it was not to broadcast bitterness, burnout, negativity, or constrained thinking onto humanity. I imagine you were once full … Continue reading You get to fan ONE flame.

Eff Loving Kindness (In the words of an anonymous associate one particularly dreary evening.)

In Loving Kindness, or Metta meditation, we’re supposed to wish people well, including the assholes who cut us off in traffic and the ones who don’t clean up after their dogs. It’s a method to contribute to the healing of the collective; raising our own vibration in the process. It might allow us to, over … Continue reading Eff Loving Kindness (In the words of an anonymous associate one particularly dreary evening.)

Opportunity Knocks

This is a previously published piece that was updated for Medium and posted there for Medium members on February 27, 2018. It’s returning here to rest on The Heart Opens for my followers, and the people who have seen this story through it’s various transformations. For that followership and encouragement, I thank you. Copper over … Continue reading Opportunity Knocks


He’s always been a sweaty kid; a hot sleeper with wet hair, wrapped so tightly around me that I know I’m in the exactly right place. Now he’s bigger. It’s summer and we live in the desert. We curl up on the couch to peruse the very complicated rules of the Pokémon Trading Card Game. … Continue reading Sweaty

Broader, Softer

Hello! Some of you know I’ve been writing on Medium, in addition to The Heart Opens. Here are a few housekeeping tips for followers: First, I’ll be writing almost everything on The Heart Opens and then importing the posts into Medium, so you will not miss much. On Medium, I will be posting from behind … Continue reading Broader, Softer


Today does not feel good. I’m happier than I’ve been in my life. These days still happen, because they are normal. Nothing is wrong, though there are many of life’s nuisances begging for me to react to them. We are trained to think something is wrong if we’re sitting in the midst of life’s unpleasantries, … Continue reading Murky

Working Without

My husband and I both decided early that we’d work with kids. Long before we met one another, we were well embedded in our own little streams of service. Working with kids means working with families. Families are working with lineage wounds generations deep, and some more than others. Now, two decades later, it looks … Continue reading Working Without